What happens when the person you thought you were marrying turns out to be someone different?

What do you do when your kind and sweet husband turns out to be still kind and sweet but lazy. My husband hasn’t been working for 9 months, I’ve been the one paying for EVERYTHING. It was ok for a while, but now it’s really getting on my nerves. We’ve only been married 17 months, and he’s only worked for a few months of that on and off. It’s not even just the fact that he’s not working, but also about what he’s doing with his time when he’s not working. I’m very big on self development, I’m a highly motivated and ambitious person, I do a 9 to 5 IT job and then come home, have a bath, have something to eat and start working on my home business I’m setting up. Obviously I realise that not everyone is the same as me and I don’t expect him to be as driven as I am. But he just seems to be lazy, he reads loads of those motivational books, but actually does nothing, once he’s read them. When I met him he was an international student, and was obviously restricted in the kind of work he could do and the hours. I really thought that was what was holding him back from getting anywhere and that once we married, he’d be able to get a decent job and we’d share the financial responsibility of running the home. What’s actually happened is that he spends a couple of hours a [...]

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